HOW TO STAY SINGLE YET MARRIED: A Path to True Union

When it comes to the concept of singleness and wholeness in the context of marriage, it’s essential to understand what these terms mean and how they play a crucial role in fostering a healthy and thriving relationship. Wholeness, the state of being complete and free of emotional disease or deformity, is a prerequisite for building a strong and lasting partnership. Singleness in marriage, on the other hand, signifies the ability to maintain one’s individuality and uniqueness while being part of a marital union. In this blog post, we’ll delve into the significance of wholeness and singleness within marriage and how they contribute to a fulfilling and enduring relationship.

Wholeness Defined

Wholeness, in its most fundamental form, implies completeness without any part missing or divided. It’s a state of undivided and unbroken totality where nothing is lacking. This concept extends beyond physical completeness to encompass emotional and mental well-being. To be whole means to recover from wounds and injuries, healing both physically and emotionally. It denotes a state of soundness and health, free from emotional ailments or deformities. In the context of marriage, achieving wholeness is crucial not only for individual well-being but also for the health of the partnership.

Singleness within Marriage

Singleness in marriage is a concept that might seem contradictory at first. However, it’s about recognizing and respecting the individuality and uniqueness of each partner within the union. While marriage involves becoming one in many ways, it does not require sacrificing one’s personality or individuality. Each person brings their unique gifts, desires, and perspectives into the marriage, and this diversity should be embraced and celebrated. Marriage should never be a trap or a prison where one’s personal liberty and identity are lost.

A healthy marriage allows both partners the freedom to express themselves and accommodate each other’s differences without judgment. Demands that are judgmental, critical, or threatening are not aligned with the spirit of a healthy relationship. As 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 teaches us, love is patient, kind, understanding, and unselfish. It doesn’t demand or insist on its rights. In any stage of a relationship, whether during engagement, courtship, or marriage, it’s vital to maintain your identity and not lose yourself in the process.

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With Love,
RD